Moving Forward

What happens if we go after the wrong goal? Or choose the wrong career? Or order the wrong meal at the restaurant?

I get it. You’ve always wanted to travel, to write a book, to start a business… but you haven’t.

Why not?

Oh, ok, I understand.  You don’t have enough time, or money, or experience… or you just don’t know what you really want, and what if you choose the wrong thing?

I’m gonna let you in on a secret… there is no wrong thing.

If you want it, go after it.  Try it out.  If you discover that it’s not for you, then stop. Then try something else.  It’s that simple.

The only thing really holding you back is the decision to move forward.

We can’t see the future (at least, most of us can’t). We can’t always see the clear path forward.  Even with a map, sometimes we need someone else to hold the flashlight so we can see it clearly.  Sometimes we need someone to pull us back a bit so we can see the big picture and the path that is so clearly laid out.

I’ve had coaches in the past do this for me.  That’s how I know it works.

Good coaches, like good doctors, don’t want you as their client forever.  They want to you achieve your goal and move forward to experience your greatness. It’s not that we don’t care about you and your success. We do, which is exactly why we want to help you reach it, and then let you go to enjoy it and grow with it.

Sometimes we get caught up in “getting it right”. And, for the most part, we do want to strive for getting things right. Just like the old saying, “If you want something done right, you’ve got to do it yourself.” When you’re getting your car repaired, you want it done right. When you’re jumping out of an airplane, you want the parachute packed right.

Getting caught up in “right-ness” everyday, however can become a problem. Life is about trying things out, seeing what fits, getting messy. If you second guessed yourself at the restaurant and ordered the burger when you initially were craving fish, you might be dissatisfied afterwards thinking you should have gotten the fish. Enjoy your burger and next time, you can listen to your gut and choose the fish.

We make decisions all day, every day. Some are great, some, not so much. For the decisions that don’t have the outcome we hoped for, we can learn from those. Of course we can learn what works and what doesn’t work. But we can also learn to listen to ourselves, our bodies, the voices in our head.

The next time a decision doesn’t turn our how you hope, look back and think about how you felt and any thoughts you had prior to making the decision. The next time you feel, or think those feelings and thoughts,
STOP!
and consider the decision you’re about to make again. Practice taking a little time to observe what you’re feeling and let that guide you. The more you practice this, the more you’ll be able to tune in and use your intuition to help you make better decisions.

In the mean time, when things don’t go right, make an adjustment, shift your actions, and move forward to the next thing.